Time for some girl chat!
"Woman, you are beautiful."
How many times have we heard this and wandered "do they really mean it?", "what made them say that?" or "really?".
Well, the truth is that none of those questions really matter.
When someone tells you you're beautiful, it doesn't matter why they said it or if they meant it. What matters is, do you believe you are beautiful?
What does being beautiful even mean?
As a woman, you should be the one who defines your own beauty. You define your own meaning of beauty. You are the definition of whatever "beautiful" means to you.
"It's not vanity to feel you have a right to be beautiful.
Women are taught to feel we're not good enough, that we must live up to someone else's standards. But my aim is to cherish myself as I am."
Elle Macpherson
My own definition of beauty is self-acceptance. I have gradually learned to love and accept myself the way I am, because my opinion of myself is the only one that matters.
As a young black woman growing up in Italy, I often struggled to fit in. From primary school to high school, I was always the only black girl in my class. And although I didn't experience racial discrimination, I had difficulty appreciating myself: my skin colour, my afro hair, and my body shape. Because these three things made me stand out among my peers. I was different.
But what I didn't know at the time was that being different is good.
Looking back, I wish I had told myself that I was different, in a very special way.
A beautiful woman is the one who never compares herself with others, because what others have doesn't make her feel insecure.
Author Unknown
As women we are told what to wear, what to say, and when to speak.
But as strong and independent women, we do what the heck we want to do!
If you're reading this and you're a woman, I just want you to know that you are more than enough, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You are beautiful, talented, strong and independent. Learn to accept yourself and most importantly to love yourself, because once you do, you can conquer anything you set your mind to!
A lot of people would say 'sexy' is about the body. But to me, 'sexy' is a woman with confidence. I admire women who have very little fear.
Allegra Versace
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